The Hard Stuff
Anger, frustration, and wanting to yell, “Fuck You” are all part of the process. You can’t skip the anger. But you can make choices to vent that anger elsewhere. These posts are about the hard side of divorce, the things that hurt, the things that don’t work. Talking about depression? Here’s The Black Thread page.
TOP POST: Why Blog About This? What’s The Point?
SEE ALSO: the black pages (poetry), the Black Thread (depression) and the Red Thread (anger)
ANGER IS ENERGY
- My Miss Fortune
- What I Can’t Get Over or Forgive
- The Long Retelling of My Divorce
- Just Be Mad, Don’t Be Passive Aggressive
- Why My Ex-Wife Can Never Say She’s Sorry
- I’m Sorry for All the Things I’ve Done and Said…
- Another Reach for Power and Control After Divorce
- Serenity with my Ex-wife Begins and Ends with Me
- My Ex-Wife Never Was All That Honest
- Kids, I Did Not Choose to Leave You Alone In the Divorce
- Why Father’s Give Up After Divorce
- You May Think I’m the Enemy, But You’re Misguided
- I May Never Reach Serenity with my Ex-Wife
- Rationalizing Your Divorce
- When You’re Trying to CoParent with a Narcissist
- Dear Ex-Wife, You’re Missing the Point
- A Thin Line Between Love and Hate: Marriage to Divorce
- Where the Sidewalk Ends
- A Period of Ease
- The 5 Laws of Anger in Co-Parenting
- What You Gave Up On Is Still Shining In Me
- An Unfair Advantage and a Loaded Weapon
- Back to the Beginning: Serenity with Your Coparent
- Entitlement & Narcissism: The Blurry Lines Between Divorced Parents
- The Best Will Come Out, Eventually… But First This
- Texts From the Ex. What’s the Crisis?
- Our Discontented Ex-Partners and Co-Parents
- Fundamental Flaw at the Beginning of my Marriage
- She’s Still Mad At Me
- My Divorce: A Searching and Fearless Moral Inventory
- Waiting for the Other Person to Change
- Love, War, Divorce: Why I’m Not Fighting My Ex-Wife About Custody
- Divorce is Not About What’s Fair, Let’s Get That Straight
- Getting Angry, Reaching Forgiveness, and Moving On After Divorce
- Zen and the Art of Love Making
- Easier To Be Quiet
- You Know They’re Watching You, Right?
- The Divorce Whisperer
- Of Course You’re Not Happy With Me, We’re Divorced
- How To Jack Your Ex-Partner’s Day
- Candy Crush in Co-Parenting: Here Comes Halloween
- Maybe My Unhappy Ex-Wife Is Simply Unhappy
- What You Took Away; What I Get To Remember
- Love and War; It’s all Here – Seeking Love and Peace
- Growing Pains: Accepting that She Doesn’t Want Reconciliation
- “Watch out squirrel!” I Needed To Shout This Today: “Fk You!”
- The Beginning of the End: I Don’t Like You Right Now, But…
- She Would’ve Liked Me To Just Leave the House
DEPRESSION – When You Point the Anger at Yourself
- An Absence of Time with My Kids: The Gap Years
- What Every Dad Loses In Divorce
- Getting Too Close to the Sun
- The Unbearable Weight of Things
- With the Time I Have Left: Keep Climbing the Hill
- Little Ghosts Still Flutter My Heart
- Getting Quiet Again; Recovering from Another Fall Into Darkness
- Am I Back? What’s New, What’s Changed, What Will I Do Differently?
- The Infinitely Desirable Woman with the Fractured Soul
- Losing Touch In the Off Times
- The Evolving Single Dad: Failure to Hopefulness Again
- Check Engine Light: How Long Until Repairs Are Forced By a Breakdown?
- Gone. A Pause at Summer’s End.
- Alone is Different Than Aloneliness After Divorce
- Since My Last Confession
- Loneliness. Fessing Up When Things Hurt for No Apparent Reason
- How Much Longer Until I Feel Better? (Post-divorce Depression)
- Followed by the Black Dog (of depression)
- Depression is No Joke: Suicide is Not the Answer to Any Question or Problem
- Feeling Again or NOT Feeling Again
- Wisdom from the trenches – “responsible separation”
MONEY WOES
- You Are Ahead by a Century
- Money is a Bitch After Divorce
- Your Contempt for Me is Hurting All of Us
- The Humans Of Divorce, Dear AG’s Office Special Cases Officer Mr. McK!
- And Just As We Reach A Calm Moment
- What I Still Fail to Understand About My Ex-wife
- When Kids, Money, and Divorce Collide
- Trusting Your Unreliable Ex
- This Is Going To Hurt – Divorce With Children
- Is Marriage a Cliché? How Mine Fell Apart Along Party Lines.
- What An Angry or Distant Divorced Parent Looks Like
- The Fk You That Keeps On Giving
- AG’s Office Round Two: Dead Beat Dad – 0, Bank $43,000
- Terms of Surrender: Our Divorce Papers
- No Divorce Expert: But If You Parent 50/50 You Should Divorce 50/50
- Losing Everything In Divorce; Learning to Carry On
- On the Turning Away: Fighting with Your Ex About Money
- Tell Me Again, Why You Think This Is a Good Idea? (child support part 1)
- Can Things Get Worse? Yes, Easy! (child support part 2)
- I Am Failing In One Critical Area Of Life
- A Fool and His Money Soon Go Separate Ways
- Marriage and Money: A Fairy Tale
- I Must Be Insane: It’s the End of the World, and I Feel Fine
- Reassessing the Dead Beat Dad vs. Good Guy Dad
- Stinging the Hand that Feeds
- Me, Deadbeat Dad? Um…
- Flat Out Broke: Money Survival Basics After Divorce
- The Close of Business Between Us
- Winning the Battle, Losing the War
LETTERS NEVER SENT
- Bang! The Lies My Wife Projected On to Me
- Collaborative Divorce My Ass!
- Giving the Blunt Mom Her Due
- All This Divorce Business
- What a Farty Old Dog Taught Me About Parenting, Divorce, and My Codependency
- You Should Go For What Makes You Happy (Divorce Me)
- Sexy Sex and the Other Two Kinds of Romantic Relationship
- It’s the Quiet Time, the Alone Time, the Empty Spaces
- Giving Up On Me, and Why I Still Hate What You Did
- Breaking Up and Getting Over It: Someday We’ll Know
- The Whimsical Blowjob & Other Unexplainable Ecstasies
- Cheating Hearts, Cheating Minds
HINTS OF THE DIVORCE AHEAD
- The Problem Always Seemed To Be Me
- When Did Our Halos Lose Their Sparkle? A Marriage Comes Apart
- The 1st and 2nd Time I Knew My Marriage Was Finished
- The Crushing Impact of Emotional Infidelity on My Marriage
- I Was a Happily Married Man, and Now I’m Not: Tiny Hints of Doom
- “If You Leave Me I’ll Have Nothing,” she said.
- Gratitude and Platitudes After Divorce
- A Once and Future King
- I Loved Everything About You
- I’m Getting a Divorce: Changing My Facebook Status
- The Sound of Snow. “The kids will probably be home soon.”
- The Death of Desire
- We Ran Into Her First Ex-Husband At a Titty Bar
- Stay At Home Mom: A Dream Unfulfilled
- I Guess You’re Right: I UnFriended You
- Picture This: A Beautiful Deaf Girl, 29, Working In a Titty Bar
- Team Dad, “Even When We Can No Longer Be Together”
- Stealing Home – “walking out of my house for the last time”
- Wisdom from the trenches – “responsible separation”
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