Divorce, Single Parenting, Dating, Sex, & Self-Recovery

Tired of Kissin Frogs

girl of the summerAnd just like that: I’ve hit the opening of summer, alone.

All that potential stored up, and a little head cold that took me out of a potential date with the last remaining “woman with potential.” Oh well. Let’s re-assess.

1. OKCupid is dead. Once you go through and HIDE all the “no fkin way” matches there are about 8 women that are interesting. The one responder was fun, (SEE First Date Closure) but pursuit would’ve been an act of interest not inspiration. I don’t want interest. I don’t want kinda. I want fireworks.

2. Women with Potential. The overthinker has been removed. And the remaining woman, while AMAZING, is a slow mover. I’m taking the persistent but distant approach. She’s not been in a close relationship for many years. So moving anything along down that path with me will require time and patience. I’m fine with that. BUT… I’m back in farming mode. (Meaning, trolling OKCupid and generally opening up the universal box of wishes again.)

3. Self-Improvement. Probably the most important part of finding my next match is continuing to grow and build my own momentum. Over the last few weeks, stress and general business has led to less than stellar health routines. Less frequent walks, eating out a bit more than I would choose to, a Spring cold have all left me with a tad bit less energy and zip than I would like. On the creative side, however, I’m moving forward with some of my aspirational music plans and starting collaboration with a drummer to consider putting my live band back out in the clubs, locally.

4. Refining my roll. Cultivating my creative energy is critical to calling in the goddess of my dreams. If I’m not in full-bloom how will I attract a blooming beauty myself?

In this pause, I am returning to center. I don’t think I will pursue miss maybe from OKC. I’m going to stay home tonight rather than push so hard with “woman with potential.” There’s a relief at having a stay-at-home night. I’d prefer it to be WITH someone, but that’s still not in the plan.

I am tired. I’m going to leave the frogs in the swamp and not work so hard on finding her. I’m going to work harder on being the frog prince she might be looking for and taking care of my spiritual and creative needs so that I radiate with my passion.

It’s gonna be a hot Summer. And this is a marathon not a sprint. There’s no real hurry. And wouldn’t I really rather be with the NEXT ONE, rather than just SOME ONE?

At this moment, I feel the joy of being in a centered and emotionally content place.

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5 Responses

  1. ticketyboo1

    Best to take a break, sometimes when you are looking so hard, it is easy to miss an opportunity.
    Enjoy your summer, even if it is not the one you visioned, rather alone than with anyone…your ONE will come, maybe sooner than you expected.

    June 4, 2013 at 3:50 pm

    • thewriter

      Indeed. Thank you for the kind encouragement.

      June 4, 2013 at 3:56 pm

  2. I think you have a good plan. You have to be happy with yourself whether you are with someone else or not, so that’s a great place to put your focus for now until you meet the ‘last one’ 🙂 I am positive you will meet someone amazing…she’s out there!

    June 5, 2013 at 7:17 pm

    • thewriter

      Thank you, Kianwi. I’m happy. The poem of the end might not sound like it. But I’m happy. All this time alone, things ARE falling into place. This *process* is working to grow me and expand my heart.

      I appreciate your comment.

      June 5, 2013 at 7:28 pm

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