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The End of a Relationship Is Like A Rubberband Breaking

the breaking of the wedding ringI was having breakfast with a friend and we were talking about how men are often the ones left in the dark about their wive’s plans for divorce.

“It’s not like we weren’t having problems,” I said. “We were. And I was very unhappy… But, I was also big enough to contain the problems AND the love.”

“Yeah,” he said. “I’ve seen it a lot. It’s like the rubberband is stretching as things get harder. And then one person lets go and it snaps, it breaks. And there is no fixing it.”

The phrase “stretching” came to mind. Like a stretch goal. Or stretching to find new connections. When the band is broken, even if one of the partners wants to keep it together, there is no repair possible.

Sincerely,

The Off Parent
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