Divorce, Single Parenting, Dating, Sex, & Self-Recovery

Another Single Father’s Day

doing dad's day - team dadIt’s been three years. In posting about divorce and dating I’m here to say, the transformation in the last three years has been amazing. I don’t think it was the only way to go, but when the other person decides they are DONE, there’s really only the “business of divorce” left to take care of.

I’m struggling a bit, still. BUT, I’d have to say I’m on the happy side of the recovery process. I did wake up this morning with a huge panic, thinking my depression had just jumped on my ass while I was sleeping. (I do recall an epic bad dream.)

I’m happy to report it was only a momentary freak out. Probably based on the beginning of summer, and the fact that I was behind on one of my work projects. Because when I start feeling REALLY GOOD, I can also start fucking up. [Not this summer — my mantra — not this summer — not this fucking summer.]

It’s the end of day on a long Friday, where I’ve been up-and-at’m since 6 am. I’m actually going to the semi-annual divorce recovery graduation party tonight, hoping to introduce myself to a woman I crushed on last year, but didnt’ get to talk to. I was at the party with GF #1. Anyway, it’s been a long road. BUT, TAKE HOPE.

There is a way out. There is life beyond divorce. And there is happiness beyond all the grieving that must be done. Here are my last three Father’s Day posts. I expect I’ll write a real post in the next few days, as well.


The Off Parent

Update: As I introduced myself this evening to the crush she was getting her purse to leave. “I wanted to say, Hi. I’m J from Facebook.” She connected after a few seconds, and remembered that I had attempted to connect with her after the last graduation class. I said, “It looks like your leaving.” She smiled, “Yes, I’m going to my boyfriend’s house.” BOOM. … Next.


4 Responses

  1. Kat

    I’ll be taking my kids shopping today to get something for their dad for Father’s Day and, even though it’s my week with them, they will be going over to his place tomorrow for a little while to wish him a happy Father’s Day in person and give him his gifts. Hopefully you and your ex either already do these things for each other or get to a place where you can for your kids’ sakes.

    I’m glad to hear you say that you are on the “happy side” of the recovery process. Just knowing that things are getting better (and will continue to) is a good sign. As for meeting somebody new, it’ll happen eventually. That lady that you were crushing on was obviously not the one that fate has lined up for you.

    June 15, 2013 at 5:17 am

  2. thewriter

    Kat, thank you. You’re like a little muse, that occasionally pops in to say hi, and drop a bit of wisdom.

    Yes, I will take my kids to my favorite Mexican brunch on Father’s day. I’m sure my daughter will make a card. My son and I have an understanding.

    Life is grand. That “woman with potential” is just slow. We’re going to get together tonight. Who knows, maybe tonight is “kissing night.” I’m happy to be “in progress” with her. It’s enough.

    I’d still like to be in love, but that will come at some point. I know it will. GF #1 showed me how it feels. And I will settle for nothing less.

    June 15, 2013 at 7:44 am

    • Kat

      Oh, I don’t know if I’d call it wisdom, LOL! Sometimes I don’t feel very wise. It’s more that I don’t mind sharing what has worked for me and my family.

      I hope that you got kissed last night 😉 and enjoy brunch with your kids today.

      June 16, 2013 at 6:15 am

      • thewriter

        Thanks KAT. No kisses, well real kisses, yes. (smile) Still happy about it. A new agendaless approach has be refocused on getting my “business” done.

        Thanks for the well wishes.

        June 16, 2013 at 7:23 am

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