Divorce Reading List

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So many books in my recovery path. Here is my shortlist for divorce reading.

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Divorce, Kids, Love, Self-discovery, Sex.

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TOP PICK: The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman (if you don’t know your love language, or the love language of your significant other, you’re going to be in trouble. The book I refer to the most as I’m moving into dating again and learning what’s MOST IMPORTANT TO ME: TOUCH.

Divorce is messy business (get the money & anger out of the way and focus on the kids)

**Always Dad: Being a Great Father During & After Divorce Paul Mandelstein
Helping Your Kids Cope with Divorce the Sandcastles Way M. Gary Neuman
Crazy Time: Surviving Divorce and Building a New Life Abigail Trafford
Mom’s House, Dad’s House: Making Two Homes for Your Child Isolina Ricci
**Rebuilding: When Your Relationship Ends Bruce Fisher
Getting Past Your Breakup Susan J. Elliott
The Complete Single Father: Reassuring Answers to Your Most Challenging Situations Michael Shimberg
**Uncoupling – Turning Points in Intimate Relationships – Diane Vaughan

Parenting is the New Relationship

Brainstorm: The Power and Purpose of the Teenage Brain – Daniel J. Siegel MD
Real Boys: Rescuing Our Sons from the Myths of Boyhood – William Pollack Ph.D

What is Love (Redefining what we want in our lives and loves)

**A General Theory of Love Thomas Lewis, M. D. et al.
Real Love Greg Baer
The Soul of Sex: Cultivating Life as an Act of Love Thomas Moore
** Care of the Soul Thomas Moore
The 5 Love Languages Gary Chapman
**The Artist’s Way Julie Cameron
**A Writer’s Time (I think you need to write it out) Kenneth Atchity

Getting to Sex

Kiss and Tell – Secrets of Sexual Desire in Women
Hot Sex – a guide to getting things spiced up
She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman

About Childhood (ours, our parents, and our kids)

The Childhood Roots of Adult Happiness: Five Steps to Help Kids Create and Sustain Lifelong Joy Edward Hallowell, M.D.
**The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self Alice Miller
Resiliency: What We Have Learned Bonnie Benard

How Things Went Wrong (Attempting to Save Your Marriage)

The Sex-Starved Marriage: Boosting Your Marriage Libido: A Couple’s Guide Michele Weiner Davis
Rekindling Desire: A Step by Step Program to Help Low-Sex and No-Sex Marriages Barry and Emily McCarthy
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide John M. Gottman

Pure Escape (keeping your brain engaged can be hard, reading worked well for me)

On the Road: The Original Scroll Jack Kerouac
You Get So Alone at Times That It Just Makes Sense Charles Bukowski
Tropic of Cancer Henry Miller
Little Birds Anais Nin
Alexandria Quartet Lawrence Durell
Neuromancer William Gibson (sci-fi/cyberpunk)
Snow Crash Neal Stephenson (sci-fi/cyberpunk – the inspiration for the virtual online game Second Life)
Ender’s Game Orson Scott Card (sci-fi/series, being made into a movie)
Altered Carbon: A Takeshi Kovacs Novel Richard K. Morgan (brutal, sexy sci-fi series)
Percy Jackson and the Olympians Rick Riordan (sharing this series with my son was a highlight of our first divorced summer together)